To Be Modest or "Hottest"

Alright, I need to talk about this, secrets and all.

Modesty is so important.  Trust me.

You are much more attractive when you cover up, ladies, you really are.

Showing off your body does more than you think.  You may think it's just your legs, or your back, or your boobs, but those are attractive things to the heterosexual male mind.

Anytime I'm in the halls, and I can see a girls legs, or cleavage, no matter how "good" they look, I instantly think,

"She's not for me."

Now I'm not saying every girl should aim to have me as an option, but I'm not the only person who thinks this.

The reason I think it?

Because a girl who shows off her body just doesn't seem like someone who'd commit to just me.  I want a girl that only shows her body to me.

Is that selfish?

I hope not.

But what is selfish, to me, is thinking that "guys should just control their thoughts."

I'm sorry, but do you realize how insensitive that is?  There are so many guys doing their best to keep their thoughts clean, but news flash:

THE FEMALE BODY IS REALLY FREAKING ATTRACTIVE

And when I see skin instead of clothing, I can't help but be attracted to that.  I don't want to, I really don't, but it's just what happens.  I can look away and do my best to filter that out, but you're making it so much harder on me, which doesn't seem nice to me, and I definitely don't want to be with a woman like that.

Confession Time!

I used to be addicted to pornography.

I've been away from porn for several months now, but I still struggle with sexual thoughts.

And guess what?

Girls showing off their body are not helping me at all.

If it's expected of me to control my thoughts, then why can't it be expected of girls to control their clothing?

Like really, is it that hard to cover up?

I'd love to not wear pants at all; pants are just uncomfortable to me.  But I cover up my legs and "goods" anyway, because I don't want people seeing that, even if they "look good."  It'd be comfortable for me at first, but making other people uncomfortable makes me uncomfortable, and it should make you uncomfortable too.

You're probably really grossed out right now, but seeing immodest girls at school is gross, because it just reminds me of my porn days, and porn is absolutely disgusting.

I'm a male, I naturally have sexual urges.  The least you can do is cover those parts to help a brother out.

How am I supposed to respect you when you're driving the evil desire naturally instilled in male minds?

The male population and I can do better to control our thoughts, but I'm sick of girls practically being naked and wanting men to not think of them as objects.

The only men you attract when you show off your body are the men that will abuse you, objectify you, and make you feel miserable.

Don't you want to show off your body to the one person you know won't abuse you, objectify you, or judge you?

You don't want a man who wants your body, you want a man who loves your body.

And that means he doesn't want to be with you just to have sex.

He wants to be with you because you're a person, not a body.

If you're gonna expose anything, expose your personality, because whatever you expose is what guys will go for.

I say this because I mainly love women for their personalities, not just their bodies.

I love a good body just as much as the next guy, but I don't want to love a body.

I want to love somebody.